Children’s parties are like metaphors for your entire life.

Whether you organise with military precision, casually throw together something amazing, throw something together (and doesnt everyone know it) or simply tell everyone to turn up at a venue and arrive late toting a store bought cake. None is better or worse, more or less ‘correct’. But boy isnt there pressure to succeed – more, I’m sure, than there was when my mum was arranging parties for my birthdays.

Due to illness we had to cancel Moose’s second birthday party, instead we did a morning outing to the wildlife park. Hubby and Moo ran about in glee, I walked behind doubled over in pain with a fake smile muttering ‘no, no, I’m fine, fresh air is helping’ – I’m not entirely sure what that metaphor says about me?

Her first birthday was nice but half our friends got the date wrong or couldn’t come, so it ended up being a couple of friends and 2 toddlers, not what I had planned but actually rather fun and decidedly stress free. Now that metaphor I have deciphered – it was a 100% reflection on my lack of organisation and overly relaxed attitude, fine for a 1yr old – not going to cut it when she wants a proper party.

I”m hoping that this year my more organised approach might result in a relaxed but fun part for Moo. Much like the party we attended today for her buddy R. It was a great party, organised, well catered, homemade accents, with loads of activities and neat little touches. It was a party definitely organised by someone with their life together. Jealous.com! Seriously the bar has really been raised in our toddler social circles, there is a benchmark to be achieved.

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We are pretty laid back people, we roll with most things. Earthquakes, house rebuilds, living in motels (for 5 months, with a ill baby) and flying internationally to visit my terminally ill mum on a few days notice. They all culminated to make me stop worrying about every little thing, sometimes its about each moment, not the one that came before or the one to follow.  Perhaps I am now to laid back, after years of being to stressed and wound tight, medicated and anxious I am now almost the reverse, I have given up writing lists. I usually forget to read/pack/take them with me anyway. I shop by wandering up and down the aisles and only forget a couple of things each week. I try to see a bigger picture.
I wonder what the picture will look like for Moo’s 3rd birthday?

June 8, 2013 Homelife

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{This moment } – A Friday Ritual. A single photo – no words – capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savour and remember.

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June 7, 2013 This Moment

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A few little images from our weekend.

Hubby at the start of his half marathon, he come in on his target time sub 1.35 (1.34.44) but rolled his ankle at 19km so looked pretty grim coming over the finish line! Said it was good though, rather windy and warmer than anticipated.

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Nim and I had a great breakfast while waiting for him to come in, she was brilliant and behaved so well, despite it being long and a bit of a tedious morning for a toddler. Unfortunately the weekend was a bit dull for her as due to collecting the race registrations on the Saturday so both day we had to drive to town.

We picked up friends at the airport on Saturday morning and did town jobs like eye tests (I needed new glasses) and sushi lunch (Moose’s favourite) before coming home and having a relaxed afternoon. She loved having new people to chat with and entertain and lots of our friends had family running on sunday so we saw quite a few of her little buddies at the race.

In other events

Cats taking over table tents, evening biking, painting and baking. Lots of indoor play and activities as the weather turned cold and wet towards the end of the weekend

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In other news – Ive signed up for a 10km trail run  in September … I must be mad!

For a few reasons Moose has been challenging us in the last week or so. I have really tried to make this week about quality time and focusing on her and better communication from both of us. Its been good, and we’ve had a lot of lovely moments together, slowing down, just enjoying.

Slowly I feel like we are moving away from being at logger heads and towards enjoying each others company.

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It was a great way to reconnect and enjoy some time and the beautiful last dregs of autumn as winter pushes in on us, bringing the snow scented winds that bite at fingers and noses. The mountains looked sugar topped. While we hunker down away from rain and wind they are liberally coated with powdery snow. The water running down is icy cold, even the dog avoids paddling!

Feathers litter the ground form duck season, the only colour is the hardy gorse and the sky. Its beautiful and hard and tires Moose in minutes when she’s out in it. The river plain was inhospitable so we departed for the playground and then a fluffy at the bakery.

{This moment } – A Friday Ritual. A single photo – no words – capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savour and remember.

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June 1, 2013 This Moment

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First up, a very over due photo drop, mostly from this week

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She has been challenging the past couple of day while hubby has been away. She always been spirited and strong in her own mind but I’ve had a lot of direct ignoring and ‘no’ ing to every request. I know its just age and development but its so frustrating as I know she’s usually helpful and want to co-operate. It’s also really hard as its so rare and unusual I find myself at a loss with how to deal with her. I hate to threaten meaningless actions such as ‘sit properly or i’ll take dolly away’ as I know shes simply to young to really understad what that means, but hell its hard to know how to respond, and ignoring it only gets me so far. We aim to be relaxed parents and allow her freedom to explore actions and consequences, but simply ignoring advice or defying safety instructions we draw a line at.

Some days I realise that parenting is more about how I behave and react than how my child is acting. It is about being consistent, fair and firm. Moose responds best to solid immovable boundaries,  and very little interference within them. Recently, in a ill-advised attempt to be ‘fun’ and ‘relaxed’ I have let some of those slip, become fluid. Now its kicking my ass. Strident but loving mama is back.

May 31, 2013 Homelife

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The last week has really slipped by with little time for blogging or instagram. We have all been well, just busy.

Our week

  • Swimming day lunch
  • Sunday Lunch at the Oaks of Darfield
  • A playgroup visit to the Antarctic Centre
  • Weekend play at the park
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    Pictures from the last week, snippets of our lives

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    May 18, 2013 Homelife

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    Playing along with Soulemama 

    {This moment } – A Friday Ritual. A single photo – no words – capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savour and remember.

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    May 17, 2013 This Moment

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    I don’t write about hubby much on these pages, he has his own place to put his words and thoughts (when he finishes building it) but sometimes he deserves a mention. Mostly he gets mentioned for his great pressie buying skills, or the fact Moose is a total daddy’s girl, or because he has bought/build/made/said/done something great.

    But this is dedicated to him and achieving.

    Seriously the man’s a machine when he sets his mind to a goal. Recently he has been running more, a date has been set for a full marathon (Auckland in Nov). In the past 18 months he’s lost 25kg plus change, gone from not being able to run 3km without nearly passing out to a slim fit happy individual. He runs for the love of it (previously he was not a runner at all) He is motivated and he achieves this dreams. It’s all based on bloody minded determination and a epic, almost mythical stubbornness. 

    But the thing is I want to achieve too, ok, not run marathons – thats his thing. But I’d like to get fitter, cook better, eat cleaner. I want Moose to grow up trying to achieve, knowing how to, having the determination to follow through even when it’s tough.

    So in that vein I am starting today, I will be more determined, I will push harder and I won’t take the easy route just because its easy. 

    He doesn’t and life looks funner because of it.

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    And talking of achieving – Moose rode her pony all the way to preschool this morning. 2km, 30 mins and not a wobble. No saddle, with her bike helmet on. Loved every second. Thats my girl!

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