We have had a good week, but its been slow. I’m not sure why, perhaps bad weather, may be the holidays lack of our usual activities. But its felt long.

Currently I’m writing this sat on the sofa, in the near dark as Moose lies next to me, partially consoled about her daddies absence by the fact its half past 8 and she’s still awake and singing – seriously no joke, she’s lying under a quilt on the sofa singing ‘hickery dickory dock’ but her bed and the prospect of sleep incite a almost hysterical response combine with wailings of ‘I want my daddy’.  A toughter mama would tuck her in and say good night, but I’m as soft as room temp butter.

So she’s beside me, my little companion in daddies absence

Phone dump, moments from this week

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May 3, 2013 Homelife

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Moose is at an age where we are regularly (and annoyingly) being asked when we are going to give her a sibling. There are a variety of ways to respond, they depend on my state of sleep depravation, and range from a gentle ‘umm ahh, there always time’ right through to ‘what business is it of yours?’

We get the ‘oh no, you can’t keep her as an only child, that mean’ on a weekly basis – ha just watch us.

And while I seem flippant about this its not a flippant ‘off the cuff’ decision, its one that took hours of talking, thought and introspection for us both. Before we had a child we both felt a big (ish) family was the path we were heading down, he said 2 kids may be more, I said 4 kids. I had vision of myself as a barefooted mama surrounded by a happy brood as I made bread and chickens pecked at the door (seriously that was my imagined life – I know, for anyone who knows me its ironic and hilarious) There is a part of me that would love another, a sister for Moose. But I also know that I don’t want to compromise our time with her, the adventures we can have and my own sanity.

I have an enormous admiration for those with big families, and no small amount of envy for that vibrant buzzing home life, they have homes I visit and sink into like a comfy sofa, drinking in the noise and energy, the different personalities all under one roof, but its visiting that I love. I come back home and settle back into my little life equally happily, the peace, quiet and calm.

For us one child appears to be what is going to work, not for solely financial or emotional reasons, but in that it fits our life, expectations and our mission statement, what we want to give our child. Will she miss out on some things, well yes. She won’t have sibling relationships, she won’t have the big family environment. Family (biological anyway) is thin on the ground for us. Particularly since my mum died. The family we do have we treasure and try to make sure its about quality time. We hope what she will gain will amply make up for the things she will loose.

We want to take her to see Europe, where her history is, the places and experiences we enjoy, to live little slices of different lives. And, since we live on totally the wrong side of the equator for that, travel is a big deal from here. To visit the family we do have, to see the amazing wonderful, diverse world that is out there. To arm her with as many experiences as we can to aid her choices as she grows up.

And because we are a tiny bit nomadic, we just love the adventures.

Todays adventure was a little more modest – collecting fallen leaves for picture making

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Gosh this girl loves her bike, and just being outside.

May 1, 2013 Homelife

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We had a lovely, dry warm weekend, not a lot of house chores done but some fantastic family time and Moose really enjoyed having daddy to herself to boss about. Seriously that child can issue orders!

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She adores her bike and being outside, the evening light was brilliant on saturday so after her nap we headed out for a bike while her daddy went for a run

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We had a great trip out to Oxford for the farmers market on Sunday, bought fresh produce for the week, chatted to sellers we know and ate homemade sausage in bread while listening to a local girl play the accordion. Moose clapped and wiggled and love it.
It’s is a great little township, lots of heart and soul and great community. Its a fantastic hangout on a market day. The park is really well equipped and on a 22 degree autumn day was magical. We often discuss moving over the river and living there, but somehow the pull of our friends keeps us here.
Before emigrating and starting our own family we didn’t really understand the pull of being ‘close’ to friends and family, but now, older, possibly wiser, we really cherish those around us.

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Playing along with Soulemama 

{This moment } – A Friday Ritual. A single photo – no words – capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savour and remember.

That amazing cuddle

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April 27, 2013 This Moment

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Totally copying Kelle from Enjoying the Small Things

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April 26, 2013 Homelife

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Moose announced this morning that she wanted a ‘day out’. So we chatted over breakfast about what we could do and chose a trip to our local conservation park. She chose a mummy made dress, a little ‘handbag’ and seriously informed our kitten “you stay here, to many big animals will scare you’ before we left. Cameras in hand and picnic packed we headed off after a quick drink at our local haunt. The park is only a 20 min drive down the road.

It was a lovely morning, the sun came out, it peaked at 22 degrees and we had a brilliant time. 

Moose was on great form, chatting up a storm and loving being out. We rode the train, saw the animals and picnic’d in the sun. Perfect time with my girl, she’s just so much fun to hang out with and I love getting an insight to her view of the world. The way children see things, their experiences and interactions are all so inlightening. I hope that by sharing these little adventures I get to know her better, understand her more and share in her world.

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This weekend was a quiet one as it has poured with rain literally ALL weekend. It ends a busy week that has seen us dashing about from one appointment or catch up to another (in a good way). Moose has been having nightmares so Ive been up most nights in the last week to cuddle and re-settle her, on more than one night multiple times.

So this weekend was earmarked as some for recharging and enjoying each other company, a spot of autumn gardening, a harvest festival and some time with friends.

And then it rained, and rained, which (excuse the pun) washed out our plans. Apart from the associated issues with confining a toddler to the indoors for over 48h its actually been really lovely. Lots of family time, lots of playing chase, hanging out together and embracing roaring fires and baked treats.

We had a fantastic playdate with a couple of Moose’s buddies on Saturday morning, lots of dancing to ABBA and eating popcorn and orange segments and cups of tea, as well as a hastily squeezed in walk in the woods in between rain showers. Im so proud of my little girl, she’s so social now, loves her friends and generally plays well, if a bit of a goofball at times. She has a real sense of empathy and is beginning to enjoy role and little world play. Although in most cases can be found either bashing away at musical instruments or riding on a rocking horse!

She’s so active and engaged. It is at odds with the ill introverted baby who distrusted and hated the world and we are so proud of how far she’s come and her astonishing development and sheer happy spirit.

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At the quiet times I did some crafting and enjoyed a bit of a relax. The sewn ponies were for a little girls birthday as a last minute swiftly sew gift, the larger was a little rougher than I hoped (my whip stitch needs work!) but is charming in a bright fun soft flannel kind of way. Im really pleased with the smaller of the two, it was a surprise as its from a old felted baby jumper (an ‘oops’ washed it on to hot a wash) and some yarn form the pre-loved store. It was quickly put together to make sure the older sister wasn’t left out, but its actually my personal favourite. It’s also a coincidental mini of Mooses own real pony so she has requested her own ‘softy Quinn’.

 

April 21, 2013 Little Adventures

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Playing along with Soulemama 

{This moment } – A Friday Ritual. A single photo – no words – capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savour and remember.

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April 20, 2013 This Moment

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Totally copying Kelle from Enjoying the Small Things

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Snapshots of my week

April 19, 2013 Homelife

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The concept of extended family is, to me, something that is foreign and historically rejected for the insular arrogance of ‘only needing us’. 

I grew up as an only child to a single parent. I was loved absolutely and completely but withheld from the extended family that many of my contemporaries enjoyed. It is not something I judge as such, it was simply the actions of a parent who was doing the best as she saw it. As a mum I can relate to those feelings, whether in hindsight I think it was right or wrong is irrelevant. All I can do is take lessons learnt and experiences and apply what I have learnt to how we raise Moose.

With marriage and the birth of Moose I gained my own little family unit and a mother in law who has been wonderful and is wholly part of our little family. With the loss of my mum 18 months ago I gained the extended family I’d not know growing up. Amazing people who have smoothly fitted into our lives, into gaps that we didn’t know where there.

It is this family that has taught me so much about holding onto the people you love, enjoying every moment and how important it is for our daughter to have individuals in her life who love her unconditionally and form different relationships and dynamics. They bring experiences unique to them, and it enhances life.  

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Hold onto family, do not let rivalries and misunderstandings come between people, forgive and let go. I learned this from my mum, not letting go eats you up, it makes you dark and twisty and it effects those around you, those you love. 

Embrace those who want to be part of your family, they enhance life, they make moments special and they bring their own brand of unique love.

 

April 18, 2013 Special Memories

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