First up, a very over due photo drop, mostly from this week

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She has been challenging the past couple of day while hubby has been away. She always been spirited and strong in her own mind but I’ve had a lot of direct ignoring and ‘no’ ing to every request. I know its just age and development but its so frustrating as I know she’s usually helpful and want to co-operate. It’s also really hard as its so rare and unusual I find myself at a loss with how to deal with her. I hate to threaten meaningless actions such as ‘sit properly or i’ll take dolly away’ as I know shes simply to young to really understad what that means, but hell its hard to know how to respond, and ignoring it only gets me so far. We aim to be relaxed parents and allow her freedom to explore actions and consequences, but simply ignoring advice or defying safety instructions we draw a line at.

Some days I realise that parenting is more about how I behave and react than how my child is acting. It is about being consistent, fair and firm. Moose responds best to solid immovable boundaries,  and very little interference within them. Recently, in a ill-advised attempt to be ‘fun’ and ‘relaxed’ I have let some of those slip, become fluid. Now its kicking my ass. Strident but loving mama is back.

May 31, 2013 Homelife

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The last week has really slipped by with little time for blogging or instagram. We have all been well, just busy.

Our week

  • Swimming day lunch
  • Sunday Lunch at the Oaks of Darfield
  • A playgroup visit to the Antarctic Centre
  • Weekend play at the park
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    Pictures from the last week, snippets of our lives

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    May 18, 2013 Homelife

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    Playing along with Soulemama 

    {This moment } – A Friday Ritual. A single photo – no words – capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savour and remember.

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    May 17, 2013 This Moment

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    I don’t write about hubby much on these pages, he has his own place to put his words and thoughts (when he finishes building it) but sometimes he deserves a mention. Mostly he gets mentioned for his great pressie buying skills, or the fact Moose is a total daddy’s girl, or because he has bought/build/made/said/done something great.

    But this is dedicated to him and achieving.

    Seriously the man’s a machine when he sets his mind to a goal. Recently he has been running more, a date has been set for a full marathon (Auckland in Nov). In the past 18 months he’s lost 25kg plus change, gone from not being able to run 3km without nearly passing out to a slim fit happy individual. He runs for the love of it (previously he was not a runner at all) He is motivated and he achieves this dreams. It’s all based on bloody minded determination and a epic, almost mythical stubbornness. 

    But the thing is I want to achieve too, ok, not run marathons – thats his thing. But I’d like to get fitter, cook better, eat cleaner. I want Moose to grow up trying to achieve, knowing how to, having the determination to follow through even when it’s tough.

    So in that vein I am starting today, I will be more determined, I will push harder and I won’t take the easy route just because its easy. 

    He doesn’t and life looks funner because of it.

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    And talking of achieving – Moose rode her pony all the way to preschool this morning. 2km, 30 mins and not a wobble. No saddle, with her bike helmet on. Loved every second. Thats my girl!

    Wonderful craft cafe, bliss

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    Evening swing time with the family
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    Mothers day
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    Because, seriously, why do you need a dress?
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    This was my 2nd mothers day without my mum, but my third as a mama. It is a magical day as for so long we really believed that we might not have a little one.

    I was spoilt, a beautiful handmade bag from Etsy. One hubby took so much time and love to find and order, and so sneakily too – well done! A card brought to me in bed with a cheery ‘happy moffers day mummy’ (sung to the tune of happy birthday). A card she picked herself, complete with badge (which she pilfered and carried about all day) and scrambled egg on toast with Moose.

    We went over to our favorite market after hubby did his run. Fresh veggies, handmade sausages in bread and music all combined to be wonderful. After buying what we needed we headed across the park to the playground and madam enjoyed the swings and seesaw (and stripped down as temps soared to 23 degrees)
    She wore her mama made dress with no complaints and charmed everyone. We watched her interactions and character in wonder; where did this amazing little person come from? I am so very lucky to be her mama. It was a beautiful feeling to be out and about with my family, to be enjoying the small bits of life that make up the patchwork that we treasure and memorise.

    At the market

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    Having a boogie to the music

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    Playtime

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    Some mama time to look at beautiful things

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    Family time, watching my pair enjoying a book while I cook up supper.

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    I paused a few times to remember my mum too, in those moments that I was savouring as so special, it struck me that there where the moments that I would have shared, chattered about, and used as sparks to ignite memories and reminiscence of our own mothers days when I was the card giver, the cheeky little person demanding ‘one more swing’ or more cuddles.

    Playing along with Soulemama 

    {This moment } – A Friday Ritual. A single photo – no words – capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savour and remember.

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    The autumn weather has been lovely, the seasonal change is welcomed. Morning light floods into the open plan kitchen/dining/living area making mornings bright and light and cheerful. It warms the house and our moods. 

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    Yup – that’s frost on the grass! (and hot tape for the pony, marking the beginning of using the big lawn as a winter paddock)

    Unfortunately the change in season has bought a new challange. Little moose has become suddenly, but totally, afraid of the dark. It’s very real and has brought out the timid side that we don’t see that often. She has been wanting the light on at night for a little while, on and off, but happily accepting ‘no’. But the last week she’s been able to really tell us, she’s not happy. The darkness worries her. To the point of not going into the kitchen if the lights are off, or down the (very short) hallway to her lit up bedroom.

    It breaks my heart to see her hurriedly close the curtains as dusk falls, to peer out and say ‘no see the moon, moon not coming’. She hovers in the light, staying away from the dark edges. Even trips out in the twilight make her jumpy and concerned.

    So today (after sleeping with her last night for comfort) we went into town after swimming and bought her a lamp, a very low watt bulb and some fabric to cover it and I made her a night light lamp. We are looking into other ways to help her too, but its worked well this evening. Its not my flashes crafting but she liked it.

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    There are a few books we want to get to read to her – but its hard as many feature monster as well – something we don’t want to add to the mix! Its looking like ‘Cant you sleep, little bear’ and ‘The owl who didn’t like the dark’ will be winging there way to our house soon, as well as a higher power bill as we make sure that we keep lights on and the dark pushed outside.

    We had another rain spattered weekend. Autumn is definitely here – the woodburner is on and we are back to the rhythms of welly boots, hats and woodchopping. Although I do miss the warmer weather I think there is something incredibly comforting in the season and the different patter that the darer evenings and mornings bring, a calming and settling effect, pj mornings with hot coco, snuggly dressing gowns and frosty grass (yup we’ve had frost already!)

    Saturday was fine and we walked into town for a mama and daughter brunch and some leaf stamping. Hubby had been away Friday and Saturday so Sunday was a quiet day. We had a lovely morning tea with friends and watched the girls run riot and burn off steam. The afternoon was wet so much indoor time, dancing, cooking and staving off toddler boredoms.

    Moose coped really well with daddy away, but was very very pleased to see him when he got in – a late night cuddle meant a good nights sleep, and no 5am ‘mama I need a snuggle’.

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    I cooked up a kohlrabi and kale chicken filling and made a pie (no pics of the pie – I totally forgot!), made cornflake crunchies planned some of next weeks meals.

    In a fit of creativity I also broke up and melted down Mooses broken crayons and made ‘homemade’ multi coloured crayons, for a first time I’m rather pleased, now I need to work out how to get hold of crayon odds and ends!

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    We spend far to much time here!! It such a great cosy little place, all the staff know us, make Moose little mini hot chocs with huge fluffy toppings and no one complains when we sit and natter for ages as our drinks go cold and people mill around us, ordering, drinking and eating, leaving, almost as if we are in slow motion in the centre of it.

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    May 6, 2013 Crafting, Food

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